Body Language
 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Socially Open and Closed Positions

Every relationship begins at first sight. HOW YOU LOOK when you walk into a room, affects how people feel about you. There are some positions that promote friendly feelings, and some that do not. Review these body language messages and ask a friend to tell you how you compare.

 

The Socially Closed Position
The Socially Open Position


When we are around strangers, we usually feel anxious and adopt socially closed positions. These positions MAKE US FEEL BETTER BUT… they MAKE US LOOK UNFRIENDLY. Notice the arm barriers, the feet in a "fight or flight" position.

 



Can you see how this position appears more inviting? The arm barriers are gone, her weight is shifted onto one foot, her head is tilted with a smile and one hand on the hip. These are ways primates signal non-aggression. If you use them, people will like you instantly.



Arm Barriers
Creating a barrier between ourselves and others makes us feel better BUT MAKES OTHER PEOPLE FEEL WORSE. We often create barriers with our arms and any objects available.



Sitting Positions

Closed
 
Open

 

This socially closed position includes shoulder and leg cross barriers, a back-of-the-hand and a look-away gesture.

  


 

In contrast, here she uses a toe point and a wrist flash. She looks much friendlier in this position.




Facial Expressions

When you add a smile, you become much more likely to MEET FUN PEOPLE!