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Test Your Social Skills

The following is the Interpersonal Communications Enhancement Quiz, more commonly known as the 'ICE Quiz'. Select the one answer per question best applies to you. When you're finished, click the submit button to get an immediate evaluation.

For best results, apply these questions to social situations rather than business situations.

Shyness

1.	When I see someone interesting, I often feel that his/her life is too exciting to be interested in me. True False

2.	When I see someone I would like to meet, I think of reasons why in the long run, it would not work out. Seldom Occasionally Frequently

3.	It would be painful to accidentally say "hello" to someone who turned out to be a total stranger. Yes No

4.	Being at a party with interesting strangers, I usually feel shy. Very Much A Little Not At All

5.	It usually requires a lot more nerve to be friendly with a person of the opposite sex. True False

5a.	I am afraid of "being rejected" by someone I don't know. Seldom Often

5b.	I feel that persons of my gender have very little power to start and control social interactions. True False


Social Availability

6.	I go to places/parties/events where interesting people socialize... Less than twice a month About twice a month About four times a month

7.	I attend groups which share my interests (hobbies, clubs, committees, discussions, lectures, political groups, athletics, etc.)... Less than twice a month About twice a month Four or more times a month

8.	I go out with a friend to public gatherings... Less than twice a month About twice a month Four or more times a month

9.	My schedule is just back and forth to work (school) and home. Seldom Sometimes Normally

10.	I go out alone to public place gatherings... Less than twice a month About twice a month Four or more times a month


Setting the Stage

11.	When I am in a crowd of people I don't know, I usually... Get away as quickly as possible Keep to myself and ignore everybody Appear formal, businesslike and disinterested Look around to see who is interesting

12.	When I see someone I would like to know, I try to catch his/her eye so that I can be noticed. Seldom Often

13.	In a group I like to speak up and ask questions. Seldom Frequently

14.	In a group situation I like to move around, look at people and be seen. Never Sometimes Often

14a.	When I am with a friend in a crowd of strangers, I usually... Just focus on my friend and ignore everybody else Have an animated conversation with my friend Have an animated chat with my friend and also smile, look around and appear open

14b.	I like to be noticed. True False

14c.	When I am in a crowd (classroom, restaurant, etc), I feel like I would like to be invisible. True False


Introduction

15.	Before speaking to a stranger, I try to think of just the right thing to say. True False

16.	When people introduce themselves, I usually respond... Just barely Formally Enthusiastically

17.	When I unexpectedly catch the eye of a stranger who is looking at me, I usually... Look Away Acknowledge him/her Smile

18.	When I see someone I would like to know, I often decide that the time is just not right to speak. True False

19.	When I want to say something to someone new, I often just can't think of anything to say. True False

20.	I worry about "being rejected" or embarrassed or hurt. Seldom Often Practically Never


Follow-up

21.	Just after I say "Hi" to someone (or they say "Hi" to me), I cannot think of anything else to say. Seldom Often

22.	I hate "small talk." True False

23.	After I first speak to a new person, I get a panicky feeling. Seldom Often Usually

24.	When I speak to someone for the first time and he/she doesn't respond with much enthusiasm, I assume that it is because of me. Seldom Occasionally Frequently

25.	After first meeting a person, I can think of something to say. Seldom Usually


Interpersonal Exchange

26.	When talking to someone for the first time, we share our feelings. Seldom Usually

27.	I have trouble getting people to talk about their personal lives. Seldom Frequently

28.	When talking to someone for the first time, I have _____ to say about myself. Lots Very Little

29.	I ask people at work about their lives outside of work. Seldom Frequently

30.	I would prefer to explain something or tell a story, rather than listen. True False

30a.	I have strong feelings and like to talk about them with people. True False

30b.	I would prefer to get someone else to talk, and I'll just listen. True False

30c.	My conversations with people have quiet spots when there is nothing to say. Seldom Often


Invitation

31.	While concluding a conversation, I give that person a compliment; i.e. "its been fun." Seldom Often

32.	When someone does not accept my ideas, proposals or invitations, I feel... I should try something else on him/her I should try it on someone else The idea was rejected, not me I was personally rejected Terrible about myself

33.	When I want to, I can ask a person I have just met to get together again later and talk. True False

34.	If I like someone I've just talked to, I can ask for his/her telephone number. Seldom Often